Monday, April 16, 2012
"The Man in the Arena" inspired by a specch of Theodore Rooselvet
Speech at the Sorbonne, Paris, April 23, 1910
but isn't that what life is about? , about daring greatly, about being in the arena. When you walk up to that arena and you put your hand on the door, and you think, "I'm going in and I'm going to try this," shame is the gremlin who says, "Uh, uh. You're not good enough. You never finished that Book you want to write . every single one of your love partners have left you., I know your Mom wasn't really a Psicologist she was a social worker , I know those things that happened to you growing up. I know your grandmother rejected you because you were darkcolored , I know you don't think that you're handsome enough or smart enough or talented enough or powerful enough. I know your dad never paid attention, because you didn;t play basquet ball ....I know you were never in a private but in a public school .
And if we can quiet it down and walk in and say, "I'm going to do this," we look up and the critic that we see pointing and laughing, 99 percent of the time is who? Us. Shame drives two big tapes "never good enough" and, if you can talk it out of that one, "who do you think you are?"
Shame is that thing than prevents you form ligthing up , and I have listen to it so many times but I am going look at it into its eyes and say : there is no room for you in my life anymore , Its enough !
And so I'll leave you with this thought. If we're going to find our way back to each other, vulnerability is going to be that path. And I know it's seductive to stand outside the arena, because I think I did it my whole life, and think to myself, I'm going to go in there and kick some ass when I'm bulletproof , when I get more experience, when I lose the weigth , when I have more founds , and when I'm perfect. And that is seductive. But the truth is that never happens. And even if you got as perfect as you could and as bulletproof as you could possibly master when you got in there, that's not what people want to see. they want you to go in. they want to be with you and across from you. And I just want, for myself and the people I care about to dare greatly.
So thank you very much. I really appreciate it.